What is my identity?

identity

I fell out of the habit of writing here a year ago.  Almost exactly.  2017 has been a hard year for me, and I have been focusing my energy in other places than this blog.  But I am still trying to post at least once a month.  Last night I listened to a podcast by Shawn Stevenson in which he interviewed Tom Bilyeu.  They discussed self-esteem and how to reprogram your brain.  One tool that I felt I could immediately put into practice is to decide just who I am.  What is my identity? Continue reading “What is my identity?”

Open letter to my mom {Thankful Thursday}

open letter to my mom

Dear Mom,

I have often berated you for all the things I thought you did wrong in raising me.  Since our relationship over the years has fluctuated between close and very distant, it has been easy to find fault with your decisions.  I have made it very clear that I was not happy.  But as we have our space from each other again (and we both know that the quality of our relationship has been in inverse proportion to how close we live to each other), I am coming to see just how many things you did right for me.  I keep hearing myself saying, “Oh, my mom taught me …” and I am seeing now just how ungrateful I have been. Continue reading “Open letter to my mom {Thankful Thursday}”

On being a stay home mom

Stay home mom

Over the last twenty years, I have spent time as both a working mom and a stay home mom.  For as long as I can remember, my career plans were to be a mother.  My mother left the workforce when I was born to be a stay home mom for me and my brothers-to-come.  Nearly all of my friends while I was growing up had stay home moms.  This was in the ’80s, and the poor children who didn’t have stay home parents were called latch-key kids.  I haven’t heard that term in a very long time now.  It seems to have become the norm rather than the exception.   Continue reading “On being a stay home mom”

Where have I been?

Where have I been

Wow, it has been silent here for a while hasn’t it?  We have had a very crazy February here at our house.  I have been struggling with feeling helpless and hopeless for the last few weeks, which is not a great motivator for me to write.  We have had snowstorm after snowstorm, with another one due to hit today.  We battled a stomach virus, with five of the six of us succumbing.  And my second oldest has moved back home.  That is a lot of upheaval for two weeks. Continue reading “Where have I been?”

A normal day in an abnormal life

normal day in abnormal life

I decided to do something a little different the other day.  In great hubris, I thought maybe people would like to see what a normal day in my life is like.  I hope that a normal day in my abnormal life will be as interesting as an abnormal day in someone else’s normal life.  If nothing else, I hope you at least find something to laugh at.  This day was a snow day, so it is mostly typical of weekends or school vacations.  If you enjoy it, let me know, and I can do another one about school days, which look significantly different because there is more time to do solitary things.

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Christmastide {Thankful Thursday}

Christmastide

This is Christmastide, specifically, the fourth day of Christmas.  No, today, I did not receive four Calling birds, three french hens, two turtle doves, or a partridge in a pear tree.  We did have a delivery of heating oil, time to knit a mitten, a new rear suspension in the car, and breakfast made by R.  I highly doubt those will repeat daily for the next week.  I certainly hope not.  For many things, once is nice, more than that is too much.   Continue reading “Christmastide {Thankful Thursday}”

Death in a new light

death in a new light

The darkest night of the year will soon be upon us, and this is the season of endings (in the northern hemisphere at least).  So just what is an ending?  Some would say that an ending is nothing but a new beginning.  Sometimes it is easy to adopt that slightly different perspective, like when we change jobs, move to a new home, or complete our schooling.  Sometimes it is hard to see the new beginning in the ending, like when we lose a loved one.  We usually see death as the ultimate ending, but it can be a beginning as well, even without getting into the concept of reincarnation. Continue reading “Death in a new light”

Toxic relationships {Thankful Thursday}

I love this exercise of finding something each week to be deeply grateful for.  I try every day to be thankful for something, but to write an entire blog post every week about a blessing is a welcome challenge.  At first, I wanted to find crazy things for my focus, but then I shifted to just being grateful for the good things in my life.  Today, I want to be thankful for something that could be considered tragic.  I am grateful today for the lessons from my two dysfunctional marriages. Continue reading “Toxic relationships {Thankful Thursday}”

Thankful for family {Thankful Thursday}

thankful for family

When I first started Thankful Thursday on my blog, I never gave thought to the fact that Thanksgiving is the ultimate Thankful Thursday.  I did not write my post ahead of time, and I have just come back from a delightful day with my in-laws.  Today I am thankful for my family – my family of origin, my family by marriage, and my family by choice. Continue reading “Thankful for family {Thankful Thursday}”