… And that’s okay: Making peace with what is

And that's okay

Today I want to talk about three words that can really make a difference in your life. I’ve been practicing them whenever I remember to (so probably half of the time or so). These three words are “And That’s Okay.” They are the key to acceptance, which is a key to inner peace. When we can accept things as they are, we stop fighting against them. We stop trying to change them. We stop being miserable. Continue reading “… And that’s okay: Making peace with what is”

New Habits for April

new habits

I have been trying to find a focus for this blog, since I know it is really all over the place regarding topics.  Therefore, I am going to try to focus on one topic per month, as I overhaul my life and create Judy 3.0.  I have been listening to A LOT of life coaching podcast hours, and taking up the blog again is one way I am putting into practice the teachings that I am learning.  Being a “jump in and tackle everything at once” kind of person, I tend to get easily overwhelmed. The most recent example of this is these last couple of weeks, when I was inspired by Cait’s post about personal trackers.  I decided to ignore her advice (and that of everyone else), and added several new habits at once.  Most are not huge habits, but I added four or five instead of just one.  So now I am going to try to focus better instead of scattering my energy. Continue reading “New Habits for April”

Name tags as a symbol of belonging

name tags

Little A just adores her name tag at our church.  We have a wonderful woman in our congregation who calligraphs beautiful name tags for anyone who wants one.  They are so much nicer than the type you find at workshops or events, where everyone scribbles their name with a marker onto a sticker.  We do have those available for first time visitors, but then if they put a request in the book, the next week (usually) there will be a calligraphy name tag available for them in a protective sleeve with a string to loop around your neck.  Little A has put a pink chalice sticker on hers to personalize it even more.  She stares at it adoringly when she first puts it on each week.  It brightens my heart to watch.

My two middle daughters both played soccer two years ago when they were in 7th and 8th grades.  One of the other moms arranged to have hoodies made up for all the girls with their last names and their player numbers on them in the school colors.  My girls (since they share a last name) also got their first initials to better differentiate them.  I nearly cried.

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My year in review

Year in review

I know it isn’t New Year’s, but this is the time of year when I think a new year begins.  Apparently this was quite common in the past, with March 25 being celebrated as the start of the new year in England and America right up until 1752.  And so, that makes today (the second day of the former new year) the perfect day to consider reviewing the past year.  It also happens to be my birthday, which simply validates my review even more.  Let’s look at several areas of my life and see what kind of progress I have made.  Continue reading “My year in review”

How to use a Personal Tracker

Personal Tracker

Today’s post is a guest post by my daughter Caitlin.  She is so wise that I often wonder that she came from me.  I am so privileged to be able to share some of her wisdom with you today.  To get the trackers that she designed, click here.


Life can be difficult to manage. We have so many obligations from day to day, week to week, month to month – it all seems endless. On top of these obligations (work, college, childcare, friends, family, health) we all have personal habits we’re trying to cultivate and goals we’re trying to meet. These come in all shapes and sizes and range from simple things like keeping the house clean or decluttering the pantry to larger goals like publishing that book, opening your own business, or meditating daily.

No matter how big or small, meeting goals (or building good habits) involve the same basic steps – organizing a plan and following through. The same is true of personal, professional, or health related goals. We need to have a plan to know exactly where we’re going and how we’re going to get there and then we need to follow through with that plan.

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Jonah needs to get his butt to Nineveh

If you grew up in an Abrahamic culture, you’ve probably heard the story of Jonah.  Basically, God said, “Jonah, go to Nineveh and talk to them.”  Jonah didn’t like that idea, so he tried to run away to Tarshish on a ship.  God said, “Uh, Jonah, you’re going the wrong way.  Nineveh is over there.”  Jonah said, “La la la!  I’m not listening!”  God said, “Fine, I guess we’ll have to do this the hard way.  Mr. Fish, please escort Jonah to Nineveh.”  And the Fish swallowed him, spit him up on the shore, and Jonah finally took his butt to Nineveh.  I am starting to really relate to poor Jonah.

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Parenting from a fearful “reality”

Parenting from a fearful reality

The other morning I was cruel to my beloved 6-year-old.  It was stupid, it was unnecessary, and I was completely in the wrong.  When she got home, I apologized to her, and she, being the sweet, loving child that she is, immediately forgave me.  It was another reminder that I am not yet where I want to be in relation to my children, nor am I parenting from a reality of abundance.  So what exactly happened?

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Human Divinity: My Sunday Service

human divinity

I was invited back to the pulpit yesterday, and it was my great honor to create my second Sunday service.  My first one was in November, 2016, right after election day, and I got great feedback on it.  This time was a bit easier, having gained confidence from the first time around.  I had so many people ask me yesterday to please email them my sermon so they could read it over again, or because they were unable to be in church (the weather made travel very tricky).  I’m afraid I cannot remember everyone who asked for it, so I am publishing it here so anyone can come and read it, and, hopefully, be inspired. Continue reading “Human Divinity: My Sunday Service”

What is my identity?

identity

I fell out of the habit of writing here a year ago.  Almost exactly.  2017 has been a hard year for me, and I have been focusing my energy in other places than this blog.  But I am still trying to post at least once a month.  Last night I listened to a podcast by Shawn Stevenson in which he interviewed Tom Bilyeu.  They discussed self-esteem and how to reprogram your brain.  One tool that I felt I could immediately put into practice is to decide just who I am.  What is my identity? Continue reading “What is my identity?”

My personal struggles

personal struggles

It’ s been a rough month, but I didn’t want let it finish without posting something.  I replaced the threshhold of my kitchen door, and took pictures of the whole process, only to find out that I had the wrong thickness threshhold, so I haven’t written that post up yet.  Usually, I love the holidays.  I love the getting together of family, I love the good will towards all of the late fall/early winter season, I love seeing the lights on all the houses.  But this year I am struggling.  I guess I just want to get this all out of me.

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