Today I want to talk about three words that can really make a difference in your life. I’ve been practicing them whenever I remember to (so probably half of the time or so). These three words are “And That’s Okay.” They are the key to acceptance, which is a key to inner peace. When we can accept things as they are, we stop fighting against them. We stop trying to change them. We stop being miserable. Continue reading “… And that’s okay: Making peace with what is”
Little A just adores her name tag at our church. We have a wonderful woman in our congregation who calligraphs beautiful name tags for anyone who wants one. They are so much nicer than the type you find at workshops or events, where everyone scribbles their name with a marker onto a sticker. We do have those available for first time visitors, but then if they put a request in the book, the next week (usually) there will be a calligraphy name tag available for them in a protective sleeve with a string to loop around your neck. Little A has put a pink chalice sticker on hers to personalize it even more. She stares at it adoringly when she first puts it on each week. It brightens my heart to watch.
My two middle daughters both played soccer two years ago when they were in 7th and 8th grades. One of the other moms arranged to have hoodies made up for all the girls with their last names and their player numbers on them in the school colors. My girls (since they share a last name) also got their first initials to better differentiate them. I nearly cried.
If you grew up in an Abrahamic culture, you’ve probably heard the story of Jonah. Basically, God said, “Jonah, go to Nineveh and talk to them.” Jonah didn’t like that idea, so he tried to run away to Tarshish on a ship. God said, “Uh, Jonah, you’re going the wrong way. Nineveh is over there.” Jonah said, “La la la! I’m not listening!” God said, “Fine, I guess we’ll have to do this the hard way. Mr. Fish, please escort Jonah to Nineveh.” And the Fish swallowed him, spit him up on the shore, and Jonah finally took his butt to Nineveh. I am starting to really relate to poor Jonah.
I was invited back to the pulpit yesterday, and it was my great honor to create my second Sunday service. My first one was in November, 2016, right after election day, and I got great feedback on it. This time was a bit easier, having gained confidence from the first time around. I had so many people ask me yesterday to please email them my sermon so they could read it over again, or because they were unable to be in church (the weather made travel very tricky). I’m afraid I cannot remember everyone who asked for it, so I am publishing it here so anyone can come and read it, and, hopefully, be inspired. Continue reading “Human Divinity: My Sunday Service”
I have a problem with clutter, with which I have struggled all of my life. I cannot remember ever living in a house that was not cluttered. For 15 years, I have been attempting to address it in fits and starts. I remember when I was about 10 or 11, my father complained that there was never a clean flat surface in the house. I can only seem to keep any surface clean for a few hours at a time. Continue reading “My battle with clutter and hoarding”
Weight is such a heavy topic in our culture. We, especially women, are bombarded with messages pushing us to be thinner, or more fit. Weight is equated with health, and if you want to be healthy, you have to be within a certain weight range. And of course, everyone else knows exactly what you need to do to get yourself into that range. You have to eat certain things, not eat certain things, exercise more, and generally make yourself miserable and hate your body. We also aren’t allowed to say that we are fat. We may say that we need to lose weight, but God forbid we call anyone fat. Fat is almost a swear word. Continue reading “Reasons why I am fat – Behind the obvious”
Over the last twenty years, I have spent time as both a working mom and a stay home mom. For as long as I can remember, my career plans were to be a mother. My mother left the workforce when I was born to be a stay home mom for me and my brothers-to-come. Nearly all of my friends while I was growing up had stay home moms. This was in the ’80s, and the poor children who didn’t have stay home parents were called latch-key kids. I haven’t heard that term in a very long time now. It seems to have become the norm rather than the exception. Continue reading “On being a stay home mom”
I have been struggling with my blog over who owns whom lately. I have been doing a lot of work on my relationship with myself over the last year and my priorities have shifted. I am now taking more time to do things that I enjoy, especially time that I have previously used to zone out online reading clickbait from Facebook. I have come to value my time more and be more productive. My house has gotten into better shape as I have kept up on the chores better, I have been publishing this blog three times a week, and I have picked up my crafting again. Continue reading “Juggling priorities”
Although I titled this like a tutorial with the words “how to”, it isn’t one. Instead, it is more a realization that I had today. With our words, we often ask for help, but then with our actions, we push it away. We often don’t realize that we are doing it, and we get frustrated. With awareness, we might get our words and our actions into better alignment. Continue reading “How to allow others to help”
So many people make New Year’s resolutions to improve their lives at this time of year. According to Nielsen, popular resolutions include health goals, happiness goals, and financial goals. I usually fall into the 16% of Americans who don’t make resolutions. I know that real change needs to come from within, and simply flipping a page on a calendar is not sufficient motivation to sustain real change. At least not for me, and I guarantee I am not unique in this. Continue reading “New Year’s Resolutions for 2017”