Tag Archives: relationships

Apologies

Apologies and other manners

When I was young, my parents taught me my manners. I’m sure yours did, too. But I have noticed that those manners have evolved over the decades. The manners I teach my children are slightly different from what my parents taught me. Why? Aren’t manners considered timeless? Well yes, but not really. Politeness varies from culture to culture. In some cultures, slurping your soup is considered polite, while in others, it is considered rude. Continue reading

open letter to my mom

Open letter to my mom {Thankful Thursday}

Dear Mom,

I have often berated you for all the things I thought you did wrong in raising me.  Since our relationship over the years has fluctuated between close and very distant, it has been easy to find fault with your decisions.  I have made it very clear that I was not happy.  But as we have our space from each other again (and we both know that the quality of our relationship has been in inverse proportion to how close we live to each other), I am coming to see just how many things you did right for me.  I keep hearing myself saying, “Oh, my mom taught me …” and I am seeing now just how ungrateful I have been. Continue reading

Stay home mom

On being a stay home mom

Over the last twenty years, I have spent time as both a working mom and a stay home mom.  For as long as I can remember, my career plans were to be a mother.  My mother left the workforce when I was born to be a stay home mom for me and my brothers-to-come.  Nearly all of my friends while I was growing up had stay home moms.  This was in the ’80s, and the poor children who didn’t have stay home parents were called latch-key kids.  I haven’t heard that term in a very long time now.  It seems to have become the norm rather than the exception.   Continue reading

Where have I been

Where have I been?

Wow, it has been silent here for a while hasn’t it?  We have had a very crazy February here at our house.  I have been struggling with feeling helpless and hopeless for the last few weeks, which is not a great motivator for me to write.  We have had snowstorm after snowstorm, with another one due to hit today.  We battled a stomach virus, with five of the six of us succumbing.  And my second oldest has moved back home.  That is a lot of upheaval for two weeks. Continue reading

juggling priorities

Juggling priorities

I have been struggling with my blog over who owns whom lately.  I have been doing a lot of work on my relationship with myself over the last year and my priorities have shifted.  I am now taking more time to do things that I enjoy, especially time that I have previously used to zone out online reading clickbait from Facebook.  I have come to value my time more and be more productive.  My house has gotten into better shape as I have kept up on the chores better, I have been publishing this blog three times a week, and I have picked up my crafting again.   Continue reading

strong willed children

Strong willed children {Thankful Thursday}

Last century, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.  Before she was 10 minutes old, she uttered her first word.  No!  That has been the theme of our relationship ever since.  She has been a very strong-willed child her whole life.  She knows what she wants, and she doesn’t let little things like reality get in the way. Continue reading

Christmastide

Christmastide {Thankful Thursday}

This is Christmastide, specifically, the fourth day of Christmas.  No, today, I did not receive four Calling birds, three french hens, two turtle doves, or a partridge in a pear tree.  We did have a delivery of heating oil, time to knit a mitten, a new rear suspension in the car, and breakfast made by R.  I highly doubt those will repeat daily for the next week.  I certainly hope not.  For many things, once is nice, more than that is too much.   Continue reading

Toxic relationships {Thankful Thursday}

I love this exercise of finding something each week to be deeply grateful for.  I try every day to be thankful for something, but to write an entire blog post every week about a blessing is a welcome challenge.  At first, I wanted to find crazy things for my focus, but then I shifted to just being grateful for the good things in my life.  Today, I want to be thankful for something that could be considered tragic.  I am grateful today for the lessons from my two dysfunctional marriages. Continue reading

thankful for family

Thankful for family {Thankful Thursday}

When I first started Thankful Thursday on my blog, I never gave thought to the fact that Thanksgiving is the ultimate Thankful Thursday.  I did not write my post ahead of time, and I have just come back from a delightful day with my in-laws.  Today I am thankful for my family – my family of origin, my family by marriage, and my family by choice. Continue reading

Tangible Thoughts

Tangible Thoughts Sermon

As I discussed on Thursday, I was in the pulpit last Sunday.  So many people have asked for a copy of my sermon, either so that they can study it in more depth, or because they were unable to attend church that morning.  So I decided to publish it as today’s post.  I hope you enjoy it and learn something new. Continue reading