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thankful for family

Thankful for family {Thankful Thursday}

When I first started Thankful Thursday on my blog, I never gave thought to the fact that Thanksgiving is the ultimate Thankful Thursday.  I did not write my post ahead of time, and I have just come back from a delightful day with my in-laws.  Today I am thankful for my family – my family of origin, my family by marriage, and my family by choice. Continue reading

love is expensive

Love is expensive?

I was reading a post on Facebook by Sharon Astyk (here is her quiet-for-now blog) who used a personal example of a crisis in her life to explain that we really don’t understand our fellow countrymen right now, and we are only just now realizing we have been completely miscommunicating for a long time.  That we need to sit down and really listen to discover how our neighbors see the world because it might be radically different than we do.  In the comments (I know, never read the comments, but her Facebook friends are generally very respectful), someone remarked, “We all desperately want to be “read” by others, and (at least for me) it’s so hard to get past innate self-centeredness and lack of communication skills. And yeah, a neighbor could be all the things we fear. Love is stronger than fear, but is expensive. But why else are we here? We’re all so needy and broken.”  Love is expensive.  Is it? Continue reading

introverts parties friendship

Introverts, parties, and friendship

I consider myself to be an introvert.  This means that I find that social situations drain my energy, whereas staying home alone refills my energy.  That doesn’t mean that I don’t like social situations or seeing my friends, it just means that I need to be emotionally full first.  It is kind of like money.  You earn money, and you spend money.  Introverts earn our “money” through solitude.  Extroverts earn “money” through social activity.  Similarly, our spending habits are opposites.  Introverts spend their “money” through social interactions, whereas extroverts spend their “money” through solitude.  Neither is bad or good, they are just different. Continue reading

Digital versus real life friendships

Digital versus real life friendships

Recently, I read an article about the opposite feelings of liberation and imprisonment that we feel from our online lives.  I have talked about the benefits of technology before, but the idea of imprisonment also strikes very close to home.  I often lament about all the time I spend online, when I could be doing more productive things.  The kids accuse me of having double standards when I am online and won’t let them watch TV.  Usually, those arguments come up when I am actually using the computer as a tool rather than as entertainment, such as balancing the checkbook, searching for a recipe to make dinner, or writing posts for this blog.  These are liberating aspects of the internet. Continue reading