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Reasons why I am fat – Behind the obvious

Weight is such a heavy topic in our culture.  We, especially women, are bombarded with messages pushing us to be thinner, or more fit.  Weight is equated with health, and if you want to be healthy, you have to be within a certain weight range.  And of course, everyone else knows exactly what you need to do to get yourself into that range.  You have to eat certain things, not eat certain things, exercise more, and generally make yourself miserable and hate your body.  We also aren’t allowed to say that we are fat.  We may say that we need to lose weight, but God forbid we call anyone fat.  Fat is almost a swear word. Continue reading

sending positive thoughts

Sending positive thoughts

There are many tragedies in life.  Death, disease, violence, natural disasters, accidents all cause us stress and worry.  In times like these, we often talk about praying for the victims, or sending positive thoughts and energy.  We do it to help those who are hurting, and we do it to feel like we are contributing in some way, even if we are too far away to be of service in person.  Some people say that such efforts are useless.  They do not believe that positive thoughts can help anyone.  Whether this is true or not, we still do it.  We do it for ourselves if for no one else.  It helps ease the pain of feeling helpless.  But I do believe that such things can be helpful to those in need, too. Continue reading

love is expensive

Love is expensive?

I was reading a post on Facebook by Sharon Astyk (here is her quiet-for-now blog) who used a personal example of a crisis in her life to explain that we really don’t understand our fellow countrymen right now, and we are only just now realizing we have been completely miscommunicating for a long time.  That we need to sit down and really listen to discover how our neighbors see the world because it might be radically different than we do.  In the comments (I know, never read the comments, but her Facebook friends are generally very respectful), someone remarked, “We all desperately want to be “read” by others, and (at least for me) it’s so hard to get past innate self-centeredness and lack of communication skills. And yeah, a neighbor could be all the things we fear. Love is stronger than fear, but is expensive. But why else are we here? We’re all so needy and broken.”  Love is expensive.  Is it? Continue reading