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love is expensive

Love is expensive?

I was reading a post on Facebook by Sharon Astyk (here is her quiet-for-now blog) who used a personal example of a crisis in her life to explain that we really don’t understand our fellow countrymen right now, and we are only just now realizing we have been completely miscommunicating for a long time.  That we need to sit down and really listen to discover how our neighbors see the world because it might be radically different than we do.  In the comments (I know, never read the comments, but her Facebook friends are generally very respectful), someone remarked, “We all desperately want to be “read” by others, and (at least for me) it’s so hard to get past innate self-centeredness and lack of communication skills. And yeah, a neighbor could be all the things we fear. Love is stronger than fear, but is expensive. But why else are we here? We’re all so needy and broken.”  Love is expensive.  Is it? Continue reading

Boundaries rape culture and gossip

Boundaries, rape culture, and gossip

Yesterday I started writing up today’s post.  It was inspired by something that happened to me, and I wanted to discuss it.  But it is a subject I have a very hard time giving a voice to.  So hard of a time, in fact, that when it occurs in my life, I am momentarily paralyzed and left speechless.  This makes it very hard to write a blog post about it, and even harder to stop it from happening in my life. Continue reading