Category Archives: Subjective Sunday

hoarding and clutter

My battle with clutter and hoarding

I have a problem with clutter, with which I have struggled all of my life.  I cannot remember ever living in a house that was not cluttered.  For 15 years, I have been attempting to address it in fits and starts. I remember when I was about 10 or 11, my father complained that there was never a clean flat surface in the house.  I can only seem to keep any surface clean for a few hours at a time. Continue reading

Reasons why I am fat – Behind the obvious

Weight is such a heavy topic in our culture.  We, especially women, are bombarded with messages pushing us to be thinner, or more fit.  Weight is equated with health, and if you want to be healthy, you have to be within a certain weight range.  And of course, everyone else knows exactly what you need to do to get yourself into that range.  You have to eat certain things, not eat certain things, exercise more, and generally make yourself miserable and hate your body.  We also aren’t allowed to say that we are fat.  We may say that we need to lose weight, but God forbid we call anyone fat.  Fat is almost a swear word. Continue reading

Stay home mom

On being a stay home mom

Over the last twenty years, I have spent time as both a working mom and a stay home mom.  For as long as I can remember, my career plans were to be a mother.  My mother left the workforce when I was born to be a stay home mom for me and my brothers-to-come.  Nearly all of my friends while I was growing up had stay home moms.  This was in the ’80s, and the poor children who didn’t have stay home parents were called latch-key kids.  I haven’t heard that term in a very long time now.  It seems to have become the norm rather than the exception.   Continue reading

juggling priorities

Juggling priorities

I have been struggling with my blog over who owns whom lately.  I have been doing a lot of work on my relationship with myself over the last year and my priorities have shifted.  I am now taking more time to do things that I enjoy, especially time that I have previously used to zone out online reading clickbait from Facebook.  I have come to value my time more and be more productive.  My house has gotten into better shape as I have kept up on the chores better, I have been publishing this blog three times a week, and I have picked up my crafting again.   Continue reading

allow others to help

How to allow others to help

Although I titled this like a tutorial with the words “how to”, it isn’t one.  Instead, it is more a realization that I had today.  With our words, we often ask for help, but then with our actions, we push it away.  We often don’t realize that we are doing it, and we get frustrated.  With awareness, we might get our words and our actions into better alignment. Continue reading

New Year's resolutions

New Year’s Resolutions for 2017

So many people make New Year’s resolutions to improve their lives at this time of year.  According to Nielsen, popular resolutions include health goals, happiness goals, and financial goals.  I usually fall into the 16% of Americans who don’t make resolutions.  I know that real change needs to come from within, and simply flipping a page on a calendar is not sufficient motivation to sustain real change.  At least not for me, and I guarantee I am not unique in this. Continue reading

death in a new light

Death in a new light

The darkest night of the year will soon be upon us, and this is the season of endings (in the northern hemisphere at least).  So just what is an ending?  Some would say that an ending is nothing but a new beginning.  Sometimes it is easy to adopt that slightly different perspective, like when we change jobs, move to a new home, or complete our schooling.  Sometimes it is hard to see the new beginning in the ending, like when we lose a loved one.  We usually see death as the ultimate ending, but it can be a beginning as well, even without getting into the concept of reincarnation. Continue reading

sending positive thoughts

Sending positive thoughts

There are many tragedies in life.  Death, disease, violence, natural disasters, accidents all cause us stress and worry.  In times like these, we often talk about praying for the victims, or sending positive thoughts and energy.  We do it to help those who are hurting, and we do it to feel like we are contributing in some way, even if we are too far away to be of service in person.  Some people say that such efforts are useless.  They do not believe that positive thoughts can help anyone.  Whether this is true or not, we still do it.  We do it for ourselves if for no one else.  It helps ease the pain of feeling helpless.  But I do believe that such things can be helpful to those in need, too. Continue reading

humane chicken death

Humane chicken death

Yesterday we slaughtered a rooster.  We had two roosters and 7 hens, and really only need one.  Our farmlet was Crownos’ third home, after he got too aggressive with other birds on his last farmlet.  For a few months he was just fine here, watching over his two hens and guarding their pen.  But as time went on, he became more aggressive to me and to the kids.  I became very wary of hanging my laundry out to dry because he would body slam my legs.  Little A would come running to me crying because he was chasing her, and he pecked R once pretty hard and drew blood.  Once we discovered that our pullet Beulah was a cockerel, we made the decision that Crownos would have to go in the stew pot. Continue reading

Tangible Thoughts

Tangible Thoughts Sermon

As I discussed on Thursday, I was in the pulpit last Sunday.  So many people have asked for a copy of my sermon, either so that they can study it in more depth, or because they were unable to attend church that morning.  So I decided to publish it as today’s post.  I hope you enjoy it and learn something new. Continue reading